HELLO, FELLOW SOLO ADVENTURERS!

Welcome to Table for One, a blog dedicated to the joys of doing things on your own. How often have you wanted to see a show, eat at a particular restaurant, or attend an event but chickened out when you can’t get anyone to go with you? I know I have. I’ve missed out on things that I’ve wanted to do simply because there was no one to do them with. But no longer. I’m starting a personal revolution of taking my solo self to do all the things that I want to do, when I want to do them, company or not.

Before I go further and tell you how Table for One came about, let me introduce myself. I’m Sam, an almost 30-year-old NYC native currently living in New Jersey. I’m perpetually single, a mom to two adorable bunnies, and like to think of myself as somewhat of a foodie. It was actually two of these things that had me come up with the idea for this blog. Here’s a little story. A few years ago (yes years…it’s taken me that long to finally do this) I was cat-sitting for a friend of mine. She lives right off 42nd St in Manhattan and below her apartment, there is this French restaurant. The first time I went to that restaurant I was so nervous because I was going by myself. I sat there at one of their outside tables all alone, wondering what passerbys might think. But the longer I sat there, sipping a delicious white wine might I add, the more comfortable I became in my solitude. I watched the sunset that warm summer night thinking about how there are so many people out there who are thinking the same things, and how many adventures we might miss out on simply because we are alone. Let me state this before we go forward; being alone does not mean being lonely. This motto is one of the founding principals of Table for One. Sitting with ourselves, our thoughts, and our feelings, is a skill that doesn’t come naturally to many people. We have been conditioned to seek out companionship and have shied away from the simple task of existing on our own. Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting companionship, friendship, or love; but I firmly believe that being able to be on our own is something that boosts our confidence levels, our independence, and our self-worth. 

Table for One came about from the idea that we can do anything we want despite the stigma about doing it alone. I’ve gotten a few odd looks as I’ve wandered about solo throughout the years, and it is those looks that supported my idea of writing this blog. I want to help smash the stigma that doing things by yourself means you are lonely. In fact, doing things on your own takes courage and strength that many don’t realize. When we are able to sit with ourselves it allows us to dial into who we really are and what we really want. And more than that, it’s just plain fun. It’s fun to allow yourself to do what you want without having to worry about needing company. You never know who you may meet as well!

So, if you’ve stuck with me this far, you may be wondering what the format of this blog will be. My goal is to do something different each week this year and my readers will help me decide what that is! Each week I’ll write about that experience and share it will you here and via social media. My ultimate wish for this blog, this project, is to inspire just one person to do something on their own without fear. If I can do that, then this blog has been a success in my eyes.

Now that you know a little bit about the origins of Table for One, it’s time to get started! If you’re interested in participating feel free to leave a comment below on what you think my first adventure should be. 

Until then, I wish you an exciting new year filled with fearlessness!